The father of the groom is an honoured guest at a wedding. So it is quite appropriate that he should be asked to say a few words at the wedding breakfast. What he will say will depend on his relationship with his son. If they are close he should mention the fact that they meet once a week for lunch or to play golf. If their relationship is more distant he can still speak of his son’s growing years. He can say how he felt when he heard he had a baby boy. He can speak of years of helping with homework and bringing him camping. He should speak of his pride in his son and explain how successful that son is in his career and in his private life. He should mention that his boy’s greatest success was in finding such a lovely bride and he should say how glad he is that two families have now become one. He does not give a toast at a wedding breakfast but he should end his speech with his best wishes or a blessing for the bride and groom.

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The father of the bride usually has very little to say in organising a wedding. Usually men are profoundly grateful to leave such organising to their womenfolk. Traditionally, though, the father of the bride usually speaks at the wedding reception. Some of them lose sleep at the prospect. Others are merely nervous but there is no need to be. If the speech is well prepared and well rehearsed the warmth with which friends and family listen will usually ensure it is a success. So welcome the guests, especially your daughter’s new in-laws. Speak glowingly of your daughter. Tell an incident or two about her growing years and express your pride in her and her accomplishments. Mention how ideally suited your new son-in-law is to her and express your belief that he is the ideal match for her. Speak about marriage itself and what it means and, if applicable, mention your own happiness with her mother. Above all end with a personal toast to the bride and groom.

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The holiday season is a time for kisses under the mistletoe, proposals and engagements. You will, of course, congratulate the lucky man and offer your best wishes to the bride to be. An engagement party is a happy event and it adds to the occasion to toast the couple with a few well chosen words So when you are speaking at the party your toast should be light-hearted but sincere. You should speak of the personalities of the people in question and say how well they suit each other. You might mention marriage and what an important step it is to take while expressing your belief that this couple will have no trouble taking up the challenge. Above all you should wish the couple every happiness in their new life together. So end your speech with a personal toast they expresses your feelings for the couple who have just announced their engagement

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The speakers are still the same at a Christmas wedding. Both fathers usually have something to say about their offspring. The best man will undoubtedly mention the groom’s exploits while the groom himself will talk about his wonderful bride. Yet the speeches should be slightly different because they should refer to the Christmas period. After all it is a special time of the year and just as you mention special people in your speech you ought to mention Christmas and why it was chosen for the wedding. You might mention snow or Santa or the crib. You could choose to talk about the splurge of shopping that accompanies both Christmas and weddings. You might say that it is a welcoming time of the year and thus an especially appropriate time to welcome guests. Whatever you say at a Christmas wedding make it seasonal.

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The father of the groom is an honoured guest at a wedding. Whatever about contributing financially to the big day his is not the responsibility for it. Yet in his position as honoured guest he will be asked to speak at his son’s wedding. What he says will depend on his relationship with the groom. If he lives a continent away he may have little or no contact with him. However he will normally mention the excitement when his baby boy was born and his growing years. He should mention his achievements at college or at work. He may want to say in a light-hearted way that the groom is his mother’s pride and joy and that he will now have two women to spoil him. He will certainly say something nice about the bride and how welcome she is into his family. His speech should be short and snappy and end not with a toast but with a blessing or some final words of advice on marriage.

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The father of the bride doesn’t speak at every wedding. It may be because of death or a divorce. It could be that he is too shy or that he doesn’t attend the wedding at all. That doesn’t mean though, that someone else cannot express the good wishes the couple deserve on their wedding day. The mother of the bride or may choose to speak or an old family friend decide to give the toast. A peer of the couple may want to express his or her good wishes to a friend. Depending on who speaks he or she will have a different relationship with the couple. What they say in their speech will depend on that relationship. An uncle might speak of the bride’s visits to his home as a child for instance. Some things remain the same though and that is that guests are welcomed, the bride’s beauty is praised and new in-laws are mentioned in glowing terms. Finally no matter who is speaking or how they say it the speaker should express good luck wishes to the couple for a wonderful future.

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The father of the groom is often neglected. Yet without him there would be no groom and no wedding. Sometimes he is not even asked to give a speech at the wedding. Although, traditionally, he may not be the host, he is a father too and it is right that he should have his say on the wedding day of his son. It doesn’t have to be a long speech but it is right that he expresses his love for his son and his welcome to his new daughter-in-law. It is right that he should mention her parents who now share a common bond with him in the new family unit they have created between them. As many of the guests will come from his side of the family he ought to be able to say how happy he is to see them on such a happy day. There is no doubt too but that he will mention, perhaps tongue-in-cheek, some incident during his son’s growing years. He may even mention his wife’s reckoning that her son is absolutely perfect. Above all he will want to express his fond wishes to the couple for a lifetime of love and happiness.

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What do you say at a second wedding? This can be a problem for someone who has been asked to toast the couple at a second or subsequent wedding. Obviously there are differences from the first wedding. There may be children involved for instance and you must check with the couple as to whether or not they should be mentioned. Good taste will usually dictate that first spouses are not mentioned but sometimes a couple will wish to refer to twenty or thirty years of a happy marriage. Again you should always check. Such weddings are likely to be smaller and more informal too and usually it will be a friend who speaks rather than the father of the bride for example. Some things are always the same though and one such thing is that the speaker will be wishing the couple happiness in their new relationship. So the toast will be the same old fashioned traditional one “Ladies and gentlemen please raise your glasses in a toast to the Bride and Groom”

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Wedding rehearsal dinners are like the first course on a menu. They prepare you for what is to follow. It’s important then that they have the right ambiance and what better way to create that but by what you say? Your speech or toast should warmly welcome the guests and make them feel important. It should stress the importance of a more intimate gathering such as this rather than the more formal wedding meal. You should mention how important this occasion is to the bride and groom and how special they are to all those present. You might mention their courtship and speak of the hectic wedding preparations. Above all though this dinner is about celebrating with all those closest to the couple. So when you toast them at the end of your speech stress the fact that they are much loved and that all those present wish them every happiness in their future lives and a wedding day to remember.

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It’s the wedding season and time to prepared for all those big days. The flowers will fade, the dress go in the back of the wardrobe and the cake will be eaten. What is said on the day will, however, be remembered by both the guest s and the couple. So capture the attention of the guests with your opening remarks. Make them feel warmly welcome. Make your speech light-hearted but still sincere. Speak about marriage itself and what it means to you. If you are the father of the bride speak of your pride in your daughter. If you are the father of the groom talk about your son and what he means to you. Maybe you are a best man and if so your speech should be reflect your relationship with the groom. Whatever your part in the wedding party a wedding speech should be about love and
laughter and happy ever after.

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